The foundation of systemic phenomenological work


26 October 2020| Personal

Survive and Live

I see more and more aggression and polarization in the world.  Apparently, all the measures taken to combat the pandemic are causing many different emotions at the same time; aggression is often the first outlet for unmanageable emotions.

Living in uncertainty about how you are going to make it economically and at the same time measures that are imposed from above are a breeding ground for thinking in guilt.

Thinking who is to blame is a way of staying innocent yourself.

And it is a form of dissociation.

And dissociation is an effect of trauma.

And when we are traumatized, we are in survival mode.

And in survival mode it is difficult to really live your life fully.


The annoying thing about an uncertain situation is that it also triggers reactions from previous trauma, even from traumas of our ancestors, or even the traumas of an entire country or people.  Then we are guided by the survival instinct that requires very quick decisions: either you choose this ór that.  Survival patterns think in either-or and us-them.  An effective instinct for animals that have little choice but to flee or fight, but unfortunately we humans have created a much more complex world with countless options.  We humans need exchange in order to learn, to develop further.  And exchange means that you can let the reality of the other enter ín you and relationships can develop.

But then you must first become aware of the survival patterns that govern you. As soon as you are aware of this, you can make more conscious choices. Your perspective becomes wider than thinking in us-them, in either-or.

In this awareness, you can smile at your survival patterns when they want to take back the wheel.  You can step out of survival mode and start living your life. You can contribute to life, even when the circumstances are uncertain.

In the workshop SURVIVE AND LIVE you learn to recognize your own survival patterns and you can practice finding your place in Life, in addition to the surviving mode.

See you at Zoom, October 31, 2.30 – 6.30 PM CET!

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Bibi Schreuder

Dutch Bert Hellinger Institute

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